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How should you really be addressing your wedding invitations?

There are many things people Google when they are planning their wedding. Which makes sense, most people are doing it for the first time and there are soooo many formalities!


So here is your cheat sheet to addressing invitations like a seasoned pro! I am also going to tell you where the best option for you would be to get your invitations based on your budget! Let's hop in.




Here are your standard and formal etiquette rules brought to you by Ana's Bridal.

Standard Addressing Etiquette Rules:

Do not spell out the state. The U.S. Postal Service prefers two-letter abbreviations.

Address envelopes to both members of a married couple, husband first.

Address envelopes to unmarried couples with each of their names on a separate line.

List the family member or closest friend first.

Send separate invitations to children over 18.

Write “and Guest” if a guest is allowed.


Formal Addressing Etiquette Rules:

Use formal names (no nicknames).

Middle names aren't necessary, but must be spelled out if used (no initials).

Spell out all words such as Apartment, Avenue, Street, etc.

Do not spell out the state. Use the two-letter abbreviation.

Abbreviate Mr., Mrs., Ms. and Jr.

Address envelopes to both members of a married couple, husband first.

Address envelopes to unmarried couples with each of their names on a separate line.

List the family member or closest friend first.

Write out professional titles such as Doctor or Professor.

Avoid using “and family” on formal invitations.

Children and Families: Younger guests can be included on the inner envelope (explained further below) of their parents' invitation by their name(s)—they should not be addressed on the outer envelope.


Standard Formal


The Inner Envelope:

Did you know about the inner envelope? It is not as common today as it used to be, but sending out an invitation in two envelopes ensures that each guest will receive a pristine envelope, even if the outer one has been torn or soiled in the mail. Still, the two are not necessary; you may omit the inner envelope if you wish. The outer envelope includes all of the information the postal service needs for delivery. The inner envelope should have the names of the invited guests in the household, including children. When using an inner envelope, do not put the children's names on the outer envelope.


Photo: True North Paper Co.

Where Should You Buy Your Invitation Suites?



Budget: Low

You might be surprised, but a "Knot" article states that, "based on respondents who hired a professional vendor for the service, the average cost for invitations is $386". Now this is either on the cheaper end or is only accounting for invitations, addressed envelopes and postage. Realistically you will probably have Save the Dates, the actual invitations, with an RSVP card inside, addressed envelopes, and postage.

Luckily, with todays resources, you have some pretty amazing choices when it comes to saving money and making your own invitations. I wouldn't recommend totally designing them from scratch and then printing them out yourself, unless you are a graphic designer and are familiar with printing your work, but I would recommend sites like Minted and Zazzle (just be sure you choose a nice paper type on Zazzle)


Here are a few of my favorites from these sites! Click on the photo to go to personalize!


Budget: Middle (lets say $400-$600)

Prices will differ with which invitation suites you chose, but this is a basic ballpark price for more intricate invitation suites. The best place to find these kinds of invitations are on Etsy! Unlike Minted and Zazzle these vendors can do things the self designer websites can't, like letterpress, foil details, and wax stamps. You can also rest assured with Etsy that your vendor you are ordering from will do their best to work with you and craft your invitations specifically to your liking. They will also make sure your suite is wedding ready so you don't have to worry about choosing the right paper or addressing etiquette.


Here are a few of my favorite Wedding Invitation Suites from Etsy!

Click on the photo to go to the Etsy shop!


Budget: High

Believe it or not, people can end up spending over $1,000 on invitation suites! Trust me, I've seen it. If you've got the budget, go for it! Set the stage of your fairy tail day with a fairy tail invitation! When money is not an object, I would suggest going to a Luxury stationary designer. Some of my recent favorites are below!


Papira design & letterpress

Margo&Bees


Idyll


To Finish Things Off, Here Are Examples Of Everything We Went Over!


Inner Envelope Addressing Examples: Single Guest Formal – Ms. Anderson Informal – Samantha or Aunt Samantha

Married Couple Formal – Mr. and Mrs. James Informal – Anthony and Sara

Married Couple with Different Names Formal – Ms. Sara Trent Mr. Anthony James Informal – Anthony and Sara Unmarried Couple at Same Address Formal – Ms. Sara Trent Mr. Anthony James Informal – Sara and Anthony

A Family Formal - Mr. and Mrs. James Clay, Jonathon and Mildred Informal -  Anthony and Sara Clay, Jonathon and Mildred

Outer Envelope Addressing Examples: Single Guest Formal – Ms. Samantha Anderson 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, California 28495

Informal – Sam Anderson 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, CA 28495

Married Couple Formal – Mr. and Mrs. Anthony James 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, California 28495

Informal – Anthony and Sara James 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, CA 28495

Unmarried Couple at Same Address Formal – Ms. Sara Trent Mr. Anthony James 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, California 28495

Informal – Sara and Anthony 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, CA 28495

Family Formal – Mr. and Mrs. Anthony James 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, CA 28495

Informal – Anthony and Sara James and Family 56 North Ridge Drive Hartinger, CA 28495


- These examples brought to you by Anna's Bridal.


I hope this article has helped answer any and all of your addressing questions!Leave questions in the comments if you have any and enjoy the other posts we have to make your wedding planning a success!


Sincerely, Natalie Cole!